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Let's talk orgasms... The female orgasm! They do exist & they aren't as hard to find as some make it. I speak for a lot of women when I say that most men should have to take & pass a course about women & sexual satisfaction, before having sex. Lol! Seriously, I'm not here to male bash, instead, I want to help the guys out & give you some kind of direction so you can at least show your mate that you care & that you really do want to please her.
I want to start by saying that you never want a woman to feel like you don't care whether or not she is sexually satisfied. That is a major turn off & probably a one way ticket to "never again land", for some. I'm going to cut the chase & give you the scoop. Take these tips into consideration next time you are getting ready to be intimate with your mate. MASSIVE sexual pleasure in her body? You probably know a few of them... the clitoris,
the g-spot... I'm going to mention those common ones-- but also a few that are much less common. And it might surprise you to learn that the UNCOMMON ones are USUALLY the ones that
are FAR MORE POWERFUL.
Often the "common" erotic hot-spots get all of the attention because, well... they work...
Plus, they are easy to find and everyone talks about them... and, most of all, because women can
generally find them without your help, so they have been aware of these spots on their own bodies
since they first began experimenting with self-touching. Unfortunately, it seems that every guy
goes straight for clit, or the g-spot, or just bangs away inside of her during sex... And, of course, that CAN sometimes work extremely well. When you are both really turned on for each-other and she has orgasms fairly easily, and she's really in the mood, there's nothing wrong with a good pounding...
But most of the time that's not enough. It might be fun for her for five minutes-- but then, probably, it becomes boring. And just changing positions and doing the same thing doesn't help all that much.
Don't get me wrong, like I said, that can be GOOD sex... but you should know, there is a lot more to it when you're ready to turn "good" into GREAT. Someone once said that the enemy of "great" is "good". That is definitely the case here. It's easy to think that you are having great sex just because she's having a lot of orgasms... but there are MANY levels beyond that.
I want to talk about of a few of the orgasm trigger points-- and what I REALLY want is for you to actually TRY a few of them with your partner that you might not have tried before and see what kind of results you get.So let's start with...
THE CLITORIS
Maybe the reason that the clitoris is the most well-known orgasm trigger point is because it is
so sensitive. There is no other place on the human body, female or male, that is so rich with nerve-endings. And there are many, many women who have ONLY experienced orgasm through stimulation of their clitoris. Plus, it is the most common place that a woman will touch HERSELF if she is masturbating. Though she is almost always touching another of the more powerful trigger points at the same time that, because of where it's located, you can't tell that she's doing it... I'll explain what I mean in a minute.
The major key with the clitoris is to do some experimenting to see how and where she responds
to your touch. Women are incredibly different from each other when it comes to how much pressure
they like on their on their clitoris to achieve "lift off". For many women direct stimulation
at the head of the clitoris is just too intense and can even be extremely uncomfortable, but some
woman like some very rough treatment right on the knob to get where they want to go.
So I can't tell you exactly what you need to do here-- you've got do a little experimenting--
you're on your own... so have some fun. Just remember this rule of thumb (or tongue,
or whatever)... the clit has rhythm. If you don't, she might find it annoying that you always ALMOST get her there. You can get her very excited by teasing and doing lots of things to her clit...
But to make her come, you are going to have to find something that feels good and then stick
with a constant rhythm.
THE G-SPOT
Just 2 inches inside and on the top wall of the vagina, the G-Spot has some very, very serious female fans. For some women a bit of rhythm and a forward sweeping motion on this little spongy-feeling
patch will send her into serious orbit. Others don't feel anything at all. For what it's worth, anatomically, every woman should be able to get orgasmic pleasure from the g-spot. If your woman can't, you can probably "train" her to start to enjoy it, and eventually give her very powerful orgasms there as well.
One of the interesting things about women is that, unlike men, the types of orgasms that they
experience are very different from each other... Or at least that's what they report-- they describe the clitoral and g-spot orgasms as both intense, but in a different way... and some women prefer one over the other... but most, obviously, love them both. And they get yet another kind of feeling when
you give them a "cervical" orgasm from...
THE PARA-CERVICAL RING
Some people call it the "A spot", some call it the "deep spot", but whatever name you use, if you
go straight back, deeper into the vagina from the g-spot, right where you meet the cervix, you
feel a ring of very smooth skin. The top of this ring (towards the belly) is known as the anterior fornix. This area can be stimulated exactly the same way as the g-spot (if you have long fingers), but
it is also the place where the head of your penis presses during deep intercourse. Some women refer to the orgasm that results as a "deep body orgasm" or a vaginal orgasm, but regardless of how it's described, it is a another very powerful orgasm trigger point. These deep orgasm can be very intense, and can trigger a lot of emotion. If strong emotions come up with you and your partner during or after an orgasm, the most important thing you can do is just to remain calm. Don't start in with the "what's wrong?" or "what can I do?". Just be cool. Be still. Be supportive. Be calm. Be gentle. Hold a
safe space for her to experience whatever she has to experience. Hair stroking is good.
NON-VAGINAL EROGENOUS ZONES
Most women, with practice, can be made to orgasm through stimulating areas other than those located in and around her vagina. The most "common" (of this very uncommon
thing) that women experience is the nipple-orgasm. The reason this one is the most common is
simply because many women have husbands or boyfriends that love their breasts... and so
they spend a lot of time there... And one day the guy just really gets into it for a long time, and he starts using his tongue with a steady rhythm... If he's a good lover and he is sensitive to the changes in her body, he feels her getting suddenly more excited, so he keeps doing what he is doing...
And the next thing they both discover is... The nipple orgasm. The first time it happens, she is going to be blown away. It is very, very powerful... and, for most women... very, very surprising.
What's more surprising is that it doesn't stop with the nipples. Women can have orgasm from the same kind of stimulation to the nape of their neck, inside the elbows, behind the knees, the back of the ankle, earlobes, the bottom of the foot, and many, many other places that I'm sure I haven't
discovered. The important key is to find out which areas are most sensitive to YOUR woman...
And then... experiment.
THE "B" SPOT
By far, the most powerful orgasm trigger point in a woman's body is her brain. In fact, it is the spot that I was talking about that you can't see, but that virtually every woman will stimulate, along with her clitoris when she is masturbating. If you are saying to yourself, "come on now, Alex, sure it's important to get her turned on, but it's not really an orgasm trigger point..." Then you are wrong.
Women can be brought to orgasm through nothing more than WORDS. That's right, you can TALK HER INTO AN ORGASM. And while that might be difficult to do, and certainly takes a lot of practice, the point is, it IS an orgasm trigger point, and I'd argue it is the MOST POWERFUL trigger point, and here's why:
First of all, virtually EVERY time a woman has an orgasm, it is through stimulation of more
than one trigger point at a time... You can give a woman a blended orgasm from the clit and g-spot at the same time, or the para-cervical ring and the nipple at the same time... But basically, whether you know it or not, every time she has orgasm, you are at least stimulating her B-Spot along with whatever else you are doing. If she's not turned on in her brain, nothing else will work. Period.
And and it's more than just "turned on"... there is a VERY specific, very EXACT state that her brain must be in for her to have an orgasm... If you are with a woman who is "pre-orgasmic"
(has never had an orgasm before), this is exactly why. She has the same wiring as other women... the
same nerve density in her clitoris, her g spot... You can stimulate her other orgasm trigger points from now until next Sunday, and nothing will work if you can't master the subtleties of the B-Spot.
Additionally, the extent to which you can master her B-Spot... her mental and emotional
sexual state, will completely control how POWERFUL her orgasms are.
In the same way that you need to figure out how to stimulate her clitoris (rubbing it like a
magic lamp doesn't always do the trick), there is a lot of art to getting her mind to flip all the
right switches to cause her to have an orgasm.
Here are some of the things to focus on...
1) Getting Her Turned On A lot of guys skip this completely because often, especially in the beginning of the relationship, this happens automatically. The first time she is alone with you and the clothing starts coming off, she has a ton of anticipation and nervous energy that can get her wild with excitement. But months later, just because you drop your pants, she might not just get instantly soaked with lust. You need to LEARN to trigger that same kind of anticipation that gets her completely WILD with lust. Eventually, if you master this skill, you'll be able to put her into this state as easily as flipping a switch.
2) Sexual Trust
If excitement happens automatically in the early parts of the relationship, the opposite is
true of Sexual Trust. That's why so often a woman will feel incredibly aroused the first time you have sex, she may be biologically showing all the right cues and getting very excited... But still be unable to have an orgasm with you. Orgasm for a woman is an act of surrender. Some women can do this easily and for some women this is the most challenging part of having an orgasm. Think of it like this-- some men can easily get an erection under pressure-- but for some men getting an erection, say while a crowd of people watched and cheered him on, would be impossible. Now obviously you probably don't need to worry about a crowd of people watching you have sex... But maybe this helps you understand why, for some women, even if she is really turned on, she might not be able to relax enough to have an orgasm. Learning exactly how to build this trust is critical to helping pre-orgasmic women have their first orgasm.
3) Creating A High-Level Sexual State
The orgasm does not actually happen in the vagina... it happens in the brain. Scientists can hook an EEG up to a woman's brain and actually measure the stages of arousal that lead to orgasm. The easiest way to get that orgasmic brain- wave going is to stimulate the nerves in the clitoris...
But, as I said, most women can learn to have an orgasm just from verbal command... they can
learn to "think" their way to an orgasm. You can learn to double or even triple the intensity of her orgasms by learning how to create and take control of this mental state.
4) Emotional Connection
Everyone TALKS about the difference between "having sex" and "making love." We all know the difference. We can all feel the difference... I believe that, in general, women feel the difference far more profoundly. Unfortunately "making love" is NOT as simple as just having sex with someone that you are in love with. Just being in love is not the difference... and of course... we all know that you can be in love with a woman and have some quick-and-dirty sex with her, and that can be fun.
Being in love is not the key to "making love." The key is being emotionally connected DURING
the actual act of love-making. When a woman experiences orgasm with a man with whom she is emotionally CONNECTED... in that moment... simultaneous with her orgasm... She experiences something profound, spiritual, and unlike any ordinary orgasm that she can EVER have masturbating or with a man who can't make that connection. It is something unforgettable. It is 10 times
more powerful than even the most powerful orgasms she can achieve any other way. For a man, building that connection with her takes more than feelings of love-- it takes a rather large dose of courage and confidence.
Okay... Those are just some basics to earn you alot of points with your mate. Remember to be gentle, listen, & pay attention to her body language... She will be cummin in no time! Click Here!
